I believe that the relationships each one of us is able to establish with another person, are the cause of the greatest joys or suffering, and this is especially true in couple relationships, where emotional investments are deeper and can generate high expectations and dramatic disappointments.
These expectations and disappointments stem from the childhood we have experienced and the culture and times in which we grew up.
Our childhood, how we have lived the relationship with our parents and the type of relationship our parents have had with each other and with us, constitutes a sort of internal model, an emotional script often unawareness to be inspired by, that will affect our way of thinking and being in a couple relationship as adults. Even the cultural system of reference, with its distinctive mythology and the historical phases that accompany it, is a significant source of unrealistic expectations that can lead to unhappiness in a couple.
The lack of awareness of the elements that act in the establishment and maintenance of a relationship, therefore, is likely to get us into a sad vicious circle in which it’s difficult to really meet the significant other and to leave as a legacy to our children an example of a healthy couple relationship, which the children will imitate when they in turn become adults and parents. Only a couple relationship based on mutual respect can in fact guarantee a safe emotional environment in which we can grow confident, learn to be in a relationship and keep it alive and rewarding.
Hence my personal, professional and human interest to commit ourselves in working with couples, as a path for the prevention necessary in a civil society that wants to protect the individuals of the future. The attempt of this work is then to be another piece of the compass for all those who are still looking and do not want to get lost in the maze which sometimes ends up being a couple.a relationship of authentic encounter with the other, which mirrors who I am, gives me the opportunity to become entirely myself, an entire ego capable of recognizing the other, The You.
